His parenting style

Where hatred of women starts:

Rapper and actor T.I. said in a podcast interview that aired Tuesday that he goes with his 18-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to “check her hymen” and make sure it’s “still intact.”

In an interview with Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham on Ladies Like Us, T.I. talked about his parenting style, among other topics. When asked about whether he’s had the “sex talk” with his daughters, he pointed to his approach with his eldest daughter, 18-year-old Deyjah Harris, who’s in her first year of college.

“Not only have we had the conversation. We have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen,” T.I. said. “Yes, I go with her.”

He then mentioned that after her 16th birthday party, he “put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30.'”

Gee, how festive.

“So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor comes and talk, and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism,” T.I. said. “He’s like, ‘You know, sir, I have to, in order to share information’ — I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain’t no problem.'”

In other words the doctor tries to tell the patriarch that his daughter has rights of her own, and he brushes all that off by intimidating her in front of the doctor and then saying that’s what he’s just done.

Also note that the gynecologist is a man, which probably makes the daughter feel that little bit less able to resist.

But above all, notice the hostility and disgust and aggression embedded in the whole thing. Notice the basic suspicion and contempt for his own daughter expressed in this police-like hauling her to a male doctor who will inspect her for (very dubious) traces of sexual activity. It sounds so Saudi Arabia-like.

T.I. also noted that he was informed the hymen can be broken in ways other than through sexual penetration. “And so then they come and say, ‘Well, I just want you to know that there are other ways besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bike riding, athletics, horseback riding, and just other forms of athletic physical activity,'” he said. “So I say, ‘Look, Doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.'”

“Just inspect the slut and tell me if I have to kill her or not.”

Virginity testing, which often involves a doctor inspecting the hymen for tears or stretching, is widely considered an unnecessarily invasive practice that has no medical benefit. A report from the National Institutes of Health found that these tests can have a deeply negative psychological impact on women and girls.

The World Health Organization has vehemently denounced virginity testing, calling it “a violation of the human rights of girls and women.”

“‘Virginity testing’ has no scientific or clinical basis,” the organization said in a statement. “There is no examination that can prove a girl or woman has had sex – and the appearance of girl’s or woman’s hymen cannot prove whether they have had sexual intercourse, or are sexually active or not.”

Also please note that there is no equivalent policing procedure for males.

God what a horrible story.

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