Time to getcher nonbinary on
Hey hey hey it’s International Nonbinary Day.
So that’s means it’s…most people day. So that’s exciting. Ok, as you were.
https://twitter.com/clewisreviews/status/1150455158016532481
I’m Christian. Nonbinary femme. He/him/his and she/her/hers. Please don’t call me or refer to me as guy, man, bro, dude, sir, gentleman, Mr., etc. If there is a feminine version of a word (like “alumna”) use that for me. Happy #InternationalNonBinaryDay
WHAT IS NONBINARY FEMME??? What can that possibly mean??? If you call yourself “femme” how can you also call yourself “nonbinary”? What are even words?
Never mind, the important thing is, it’s all about him her alumna waitress princess nonbinaryette.
to all you cis gays with thousands of followers, share my stuff and get me followers, you owe me (and your other nb friends), its #InternationalNonBinaryDay
— Christian Lewis (@clewisreviews) July 14, 2019
It’s only cis gays who owe herhimwaitress? Not cis straights? So I don’t owe him this sharing then, but never mind, I’m doing it out of sheer generosity.
He’s been working out the best way to correct everyone. That is some demanding labor, let me tell you; it can keep a princess up all night.
These pics may be of me exploring makeup and colorful eyebrows, but this years I’ve also been working through pronouns, coming out in professional settings, finding the best way to correct friends/colleagues when they constantly misgender me—but that’s hard to capture in a selfie
— Christian Lewis (@clewisreviews) July 14, 2019
So true. All that profundity and correctingness is very hard to capture in a selfie.
H/t Josh
HAPPY INTERNATIONAL NONBINARY DAY EVERYONE!!
So, I mean . . . I still don’t have a clue what nonbinary is meant to signify.
Do people who identify as nonbinary mean that they literally have no gender?
Is it just that gender is swell for everyone else, but they’re more complex than typical people?
Do they mean they would like to opt out of the entire system of gender?
(I’m not asking what you think it means. I’m wondering what they actually thinking they are declaring.)
Is it just for everyone who isn’t entirely comfortable with the assumptions, expectations, and “requirements” of his or her gender? Someone who doesn’t fit neatly within his or her culturally determined gender “box”?
Isn’t that literally 100% of humanity? Those gender boxes are arbitrary and often contradictory. No one ticks all the items in the list. No one.
What is a nonbinary femme? I’m picking it’s someone who wants the basic privileges and ease of living that come with being a man, but who want to explore a light non-traditional gender role with a ‘reason’. So, they can explore make-up and different hairstyles and dress, like girly things and be emotional (all at least part of the time); without being accused of being gay or just having to defend their choice by saying “I’m a bloke who likes wearing eyeliner and a floral print alright!” In short, they lack the courage of their convictions AND want to publicly proclaim their specialness.
I recently read an interview with John Waters in which he said
He has wise.
Funny, when I saw the title of this post, I misread it as “Time to getcher nobbery on.”
Turns out I wasn’t far off.
Not needy or demanding at all. Nope.
Eyebrows! You forgot colorful eyebrows!
That’s a tough mix, but I’ve heard that stamping your feet, writing all caps and holding your breath until you turn blue helps.
Christian wants to spread the word about an upcoming tour of Tootsie, linking to an article by American Theatre .org that says ‘The new musical’s creators think they’ve upended the material’s sexist tropes; apparently they don’t see that ‘man in a dress’ jokes are inherently transphobic.” Funny, I thought that “women pretending to be men” trope was potentially misogynistic. In many cases, it would seem, trans identified men really are no more than men in dresses (Cf Phillip/Pippa Bunce). That some of us don’t take them seriously or validate their delusions is not our problem. If the “jokes” hit too close to home, ask why.
Am I reading this correctly, that Christian is ok with he/him/his pronouns, but DON’T YOU DARE CALL HIM guy, sir, Mr., etc.? You know what I’m going to call him? Too much damn work.
By the way, if it’s Nonbinary Day, why do I owe a shout-out to trans people? I thought a trans woman was a woman, period, full stop, no different than any “assigned female at birth cis” woman. Is Christian implying that trans women aren’t the womanliest women who ever womened? Is Christian transphobic?
Ben @ 1 – Yes it is. That’s why I started with “so that’s everyone then.”
I think one of the groundrules of this whole game is that people under the extensive, glittery, rainbow “trans umbrella” should not poke holes in each other’s delusions. This marriage of convenience between trans and NBs papers over the contradictions between their disparate views of gender. At this point their conflicting ideologies (if either group has anything coherent enough to call an ideology) has not led, as far as I can see, to any activist conflicts between them over strategy, tactics or goals. While the external threat of TERFdom remains, the internal divisions can be ignored. Come the Revolution, though, we might see Bolsheviks and the Mensheviks slug it out. Not that TERFdom is ever going to go away. They are never going to win this war, because what they’re really fighting against is physical reality, which doesn’t give a shit about anyone’s pronouns.
Trans people are part of the nonbinary movement? I thought they fully embraced the binary but switched sides.
Ben @ 1:
Yes it does seem that if nonbinary means not conforming fully to a particular set of gender stereotypes then it would apply to everyone. Or even if it just applies to some people, that’s enough to undermine the stereotypes and show them up as an inaccurate picture of what male and female humans are actually like. Yet identifying as a nonbinary individual seems to imply that other people are and should remain conformists to gender stereotypes. The idea being that the stereotypes are good for them and bad for me. I guess it’s a form of relativism.
It’s a little bit like identifying as a ‘non-racist’ but believing that some or most people should remain racist if that’s how they want to identify. Racists and non-racists could then live side by side in harmony, with racists accepting that some people are non-racist and respecting that choice. That would be absurd of course because racists will never do that and being racist is wrong.
It seems to me that gender stereotypes are just not accurate, so why define oneself in relation to them?
Even stranger is to try to reject the stereotypes and embrace them at the same time, a la ‘non binary femme’ which sounds like a straightforward contradiction.
There are people who identify as both trans and non-binary. The daughter of a friend is one. I don’t talk about it much with him because it’s a touchy subject. She gets hormone treatments and wants people to use “they/them” pronouns. I don’t fully understand how this works, but it seems to me to be a big pile of rejection, where any questions are met with anger and charges of bigotry.
I grew up playing cricket, riding bikes, and reading shitloads of books. I am also quite reserved with new people. Does this make me nonbinary? My pronouns are xxarr’hekactyl’opisth-shub and tossnobs, PLEASE SOMEONE VALIDATE ME WITH PRAISE AND CORRECT PRONOUNCIATION OF MY PRONOUNS OTHERWISE YOU ARE MURDERING ME.
Careful, the non-binary femme army is watching.
I mean, yeah.
As one of those crazy people with computer science degrees, I find the whole “self-determined pronouns” thing utterly unworkable, as it is vulnerable to something akin to SQL injection attacks. I can demand people use utterly idiosyncratic “pronouns”, which do not require any sort of etymological support. I laughed out loud when I read about a student choosing His Majesty as his pronoun.
If you don’t subject your input strings to any sort of data validation, you get bad results. If you refuse to validate your inputs and then complain when bad things happen, you deserve those bad things.
Do non-binary people play on the men’s team or the women’s team?
Wherever they can win.
Oooooh, deeeeamn! Sick burn.