He was in full makeup and a dress
Dude is furious that some pesky woman who is too short and not-thin for his liking told him he can’t go into the women’s toilets. The Guardian is passionately sympathetic.
I was visiting family in London when the British supreme court handed down its unexpected ruling: under the Equality Act, sex was now considered “binary” in law, which meant transgender people could be banned from single-sex spaces of their gender identity.
Circular enough? What he means is: men could be banned from women’s spaces. Well no shit, Sherlee.
It was my last night in London before returning to Australia. I was in full makeup and a dress when my female friends took me out dancing at an alternative hub that has always prided itself on being an accepting space.
Accepting of what? Men putting women in danger? Funny thing to pride oneself on.
In 15 years of visiting Britain I have been presenting feminine in public without any problem, including using women’s bathrooms.
But now I needed to piss, and I was afraid.
Imagine how all those women felt when they found him in their bathrooms. Imagine how afraid they may have felt. Imagine the problem they saw in his presence in their toilets. When he says “without any problem” he of course means any problem for him. Other people are just wallpaper in his drama.
Sensing my discomfort my friends loyally announced their own need to pee. So we filed through a maze of corridors until we got to the pair of doors that have bifurcated so much of my life.
And there she was. The literal toilet police. She was a stocky woman marking each visitor as they approached the door…
Omigod no. A stocky woman???? How could the alternative hub put him through that???
My friends came to the rescue, telling the guard to back off and escorting me into the women’s, which was crowded with people.
Well. It was crowded with women. Rudeboy and his rude friends hadn’t been there to storm their way into the women’s toilets so it was only women who were crowding the women’s toilets – but of course if he said that it would make it too clear how intrusive and threatening and women-hating he was being.
Gaze fixed downwards to hide my humiliation, I pushed into a cubicle and peed.
Diddums. It’s all about his humiliation. What the women might want is not on the radar. Ever.

Of course. Full makeup and a dress = woman. We should know that, right?
He was deliberately flouting a law he was aware of. He was pushing women’s boundaries, and invading their personal space. That makes him a potential – no, remove potential – threat to women.
“Sensing my discomfort my friends loyally announced their own need to pee.”
Why does this sound so fetishy?
Why does this part remind me of Trump’s stories?
For a minute afterwards I stood crying against the wall. Then the toilet policewoman returned and took up position in front of me. She looked a little ashamed, and she touched a now-gentler hand to my arm.
“It’s not me,” she said. “It’s just the way things are now.”
It’s just missing the “Ma’am, she said, with tears in her eyes…”
I suspect Papito is correct, however, IF this did happen, I also suspe0ct he missed all over the seat and floor to mark his territory
Looking at photos of him online – including his own website – he’s a very bloke looking bloke, lovely hair not withstanding. Occasionally with a heavy beard I’ve never managed to grow, but always with a strong five o’clock shadow. So, fully intact and no cross-sex hormones there. But of course it’s women being unreasonable and making him afraid.
@GW,
Oh, but isn’t that what women do? They all go to the
toiletpowder room together to “powder their noses” and gossip. How much more ladylike can you get?Why was he afraid? If the venue was an accepting space then a man in a frock using the male toilets would be perfectly safe.