Be less offended
A judge has told a non-binary health worker who tried to sue their NHS Trust over being ‘deadnamed’ and ‘mis-pronouned’ that they should not have been so offended.
Using preferred pronouns to live as non-binary does not have the same protected status as reassigning sex, employment judge Ann Nicola Benson found.
Ooooooooooh you’re not allowed to say that. Living as non-binareee is SACRED and nobody is allowed to say it’s not as anything as anything else.
The case was brought against Cheshire and Wirral NHS Foundation Trust and six staff members by Haech Lockwood, a cognitive behavioural therapist.
Rilly? Who wants cognitive anything from an egocentric loon?
‘We therefore find that the claimant does not have the protected characteristic of gender reassignment,’ the judgement added.
Among the claims from Lockwood, who was born female and was previously known as Heather, were that they were referred to as ‘her’ on a series of IT servicedesk tickets and as ‘she’ or ‘her’ by colleagues during several interactions.
They were also sent employment contracts with their ‘deadname’, despite having changed it by deed poll and having previously brought grievances about similar issues.
Babe, nobody cares. Nobody has the time or attention to keep track of your boutique idenniny. We’re busy with other things. How about you get busy with other things yourself.
‘All staff involved demonstrated a real intention to do their best to ensure they get it right going forward and propose and, in most cases, put in place positive steps to achieve this,’ the judgement found.
Despite this, Lockwood would not accept an apology unless it showed a ‘deep understanding’ of the impact it had on them. And they demanded an apology from the IT team, instead of the apology on its behalf that had been issued.
‘We consider that the apologies given by every member of the Trust were genuine and heartfelt, and such as to seek to ensure the claimant’s concerns were appreciated and understood by them,’ judge Benson wrote. ‘It is unfortunate that the claimant was unwilling to accept them as such and take such an inflexible stance.’
Which is why it’s a mistake to humor this bullshit at all ever. Just say no, or you’ll be bogged down in absurd quarrels for the foreseeable future.
One of the complaints related to an IT ticket Lockwood received after flagging an issue on July 5, 2023, which used the pronoun ‘her’ to describe them.
Lockwood responded to say the misgendering had left them distressed, and the IT technician immediately emailed to apologise, changed the pronoun ‘her’ to ‘their’ and left a note for the next person so they would be aware of Lockwood’s non-binary status.
The tribunal found that Lockwood had not told the IT technician of their non-binary status when they made the call, and the technician had taken steps to remedy the situation at the time.
‘Although the claimant says that it was not up to them to, for example, tell someone their pronouns, that takes away their opportunity to influence the environment and educate colleagues as to the environment they seek to create – particularly where the social norms are binary, and there are such a small number of non binary people in the organisation,’ the judge said. ‘The claimant approach has, as indicated by one of the witnesses, been unforgiving.’
Of course it has, because that’s the fun of it. Fuss fuss fuss pay attention to me me me no not that way but a different way, and more, and better, according to me, look at me now and also tomorrow and forever. That’s how you be a good ally.
That’s the head of the nail, just hit square on.
Though born a male human, I identify as a trans (MtF) giraffe. (Pronouns: gronk / eyore / cockadoodledoo.) But no creature on Earth will recognise my chosen species and sex. Can’t they see that the whole world revolves around me? Me.!!!????
Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.!!!!!!!!!!!
This individual (SHE) needs to go home, take a deep breathe, have a hot cup of chicken noodle soup, and GROW UP. Then get over herself, get back to work and do her job instead of insisting on everyone looking at her.
Getting cognitive behavioral therapy from a loon is not as serious to me as getting it from a narcissist. A therapist needs to leave themselves at home and focus on the patient, not on their own gender identity delusion. The first time a therapist I go to tells me “by the way, my pronouns are [X]”, my response will be “my pronouns are going, going, gone, and fuck off”.
Between the dictatorship of the left and the dictatorship of the right, this country, and those few remaining sane people in it (I do not count myself as one of those, though I am not deluded, I am merely out of my mind) are in for a world of trouble. Because of our nuclear armed superpower status, that means the world is in for a world of trouble.
I would just like the chance to say good-by to everyone before we all go, and also to let them know, again, that my pronouns are I/Me/Mine. All other pronouns belong to someone else.
Of course it’s up to ‘them’. People can’t know that somebody has a sacred identity if they’re not told. But I guess it’s all part of the narcissistic game they play – the fewer people who know their special pronouns the more chances they get to be the centre of attention as people fail to use them.
Okay, I don’t know enough about English law to know if changing your name by ‘deed poll’ means anything legally. If it does, then yes, the contracts should be in the person’s new name (so long as you’ve communicated the name change to your employer), for fairly straightforward reasons.
But the rest of it is, frankly, even more absurd than the usual Enby Nonsense. Not only did she want preferred ersatz pronouns, but demanded that everyone around them discern that preference without any action on her part, filing complaints when they failed to do so? Good lord.
Freemage, I guess that’s because it’s not about being ‘non-binary’, it’s about being special.
Freemage, in UK law changing the name by Deed Poll is legal, recognised by government and becomes that person’s legal identity for all purposes, such as passport, driving licence, utility bills, etc. The HR department should have changed all references to that person, including payroll, pension and work ID.
It is similar to changing name upon marriage, divorce and adoption. No matter how absurd the name ( and l have encountered some truly bizarre examples), providing it is legal, the name on the Deed Poll must be recognised.
I heard George Packer being interviewed on The Bulwark by Tim Miller on Friday. Most of the interview was about Packer’s new book (https://us.macmillan.com/books/9780374614720/theemergency/). It sounded interesting and Packer seemed a thoughtful person. His book is set in a world and civilisation that while not ours would be clearly recognised by us. Relevant to this and many discussions we’ve had here at B&W he describes a young urban liberal community in which strict adherence to certain ideas and norms is required or you are socially shunned. The counter movement is rural men prizing physical and military prowess. Caught in the middle the existing culture breaks down, as much from a lack of faith in itself and boredom as anything else. Might be worth a look.
“Haech” looks like a representation of the sound a cat makes when coughing up a furball. Is it pronounced like “Haitch”? As in the letter H? That alone would make me cringe myself inside out.
Catwhisperer, I assume that her new name is supposed to represent the ‘H’ from ‘Heather’ but with a trans twist on the spelling. If so, I wonder if she doesn’t realise that ‘H’ is meant to be pronounced ‘aitch’, as it is properly spelt, and if she has a hissy fit if people don’t pronounce her name with the aspirated ‘H’ sound.
When l first read the name, l thought it was prounced ‘ache. As in face ache.