Rebecca Solnit did a public Facebook post about the second debate as a display of domestic violence behavior. There are roughly a million comments on it, expressing how reminiscent Trump is of every abuser people have ever known.

I realized it was like watching a domestic-violence relationship for 90 minutes. He endeavored to humiliate and shame her sexually, menace and intimidate her physically, silence her by talking over her, discrediting her, upstaging her, invading her space repeatedly, and putting his rage on display. Men use rage to instill fear. I’ve talked to people who wondered if he was going to physically assault her, and he certainly loomed as if he might, while he ran through his crazy bunchy-faced scowling, glowering, sulking expressions. I mean, I know it’s fair to criticize your opponent but this was something else. It is our collective nightmare, and it’s hard to stop watching.

It’s true. I mostly listened, and watched only intermittently, but yes his relentless glowering along with his shouting and interrupting did remind me of shouty domineering men I’ve known and clashed with. It’s a definite genre, and I hate it.

One comment was by Melissa Jeltsen, who wrote on the subject at the Huffington Post in September. I blogged about it then, but now in the wake of the second debate, and Trump’s ever more threatening behavior since, it merits a revisit.

Title: Trump Is Triggering Domestic Violence Survivors With Textbook Abusive Behavior

Subhead: He lies. He bullies. He threatens. And he’s one step away from the presidency.

We as a people – Americans – are in the process of telling the world that we love bullies.

Karla Fischer, a professor at University of Illinois College of Law, pointed to another common trait of abusers which Trump shares: Making themselves out to be the victim.

“Sometimes when perpetrators file protective orders against their victims, they say everything they have done to her, but claim she did it to him,” Fischer  explained. “And then there’s the rationalizing: ‘I only did it because I was [drunk etc.],’ the outright denials of wrongdoing even when caught.”

Trump follows this pattern to the word. When he is accused of causing harm, he often makes himself out to be the one who has been wronged.

He’s doing it now, this very minute, on Twitter – projecting so hard he could beam a movie to Mars.

Kimberly Brusk, a domestic violence survivor in Atlanta, said she spent half of her most recent therapy session discussing Trump and how he is reminiscent of her ex.

“He lies about things he just said. He can’t win an argument with [Clinton] fairly so he tries to hurt her,” she said. “When he’s talking I can feel my heart racing.”

Kate Ranta, a domestic violence survivor who was shot by her estranged husband in 2012, said the most triggering moment for her was when Trump “joked” about someone assassinating Clinton.

“Domestic violence survivors have a unique experience when it comes to Trump because we’ve fallen victim to men like him,” she said.

Jennifer Tetefsky, who cofounded an advocacy organization for domestic violence survivors to tell their own stories, said she’s had to go off the grid because Trump was triggering her PTSD. She can no longer watch TV.

Yet he’s a hero to millions.

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