Emergency, send adjectives
Also let’s get people in low-paid jobs fired or reprimanded or whatever we can successfully demand for Not Using The Correct™ Pronouns™ all power to the firing class yeah?
https://twitter.com/MelzDot/status/1132233737268269056
Did MelzDot ask “the security” (rather a dehumanizing way to refer to a person) what his pronouns were? Are Bespoke Pronouns only for the privileged few who speak at a TRANS Conference and not the riffraff who guard them?
There follows a long maudlin thread of people offering Mr Dot massive sympathy for this hideous unparalleled tragedy.
sending you so much love & i’m really sorry this happened to you. what an utter disgrace on their part.
— kamara. (@incognegraux) May 25, 2019
It’s all like that or worse.
This isn’t good. It’s not healthy. Even if you agree that people can change sex by assertion, it’s still not good or healthy. Frenzied maudlin over-reaction to something as trivial as a complete stranger not consenting to use “the pronouns” you order him to use is not reasonable or sane or healthy or any kind of way to go about living in the world. It just isn’t. Proportion is absolutely key to being an adult. We don’t argue that fact very much because it’s so obvious and we’re so used to fellow adults knowing that and acting accordingly. Adult public life doesn’t feature watching another adult have a screaming meltdown because the coffee is lukewarm. You know? Even if you want to have a screaming meltdown, because it’s been a bad day and your nerves are shredded and it feels like just the last thing in a long list and you want to freak out – you don’t, because you still know it would be all out of proportion and you would start to feel like an asshole about ten seconds in. Right?
But this shit – it’s all about the narcissistic rages over utterly minor wounds to the ego. It’s all about running to Twitter to stage a “you won’t believe what those devils did to me!!” tantrum in order to collect replies saying “what an utter disgrace” “that’s absolutely disgusting” “absolutely unacceptable transphobia” “absolutely disgraceful” “horrendous” (all actual labels in replies). That’s not political activism, and it’s sure as hell not political analysis or discourse; it’s nothing but childish attention-seeking and histrionics. It’s…
…absolutely disgraceful.
I think I saw this in a classic movie once.
http://farcornercafe.blogspot.com/2019/05/classic-moments-in-cinema.html
And on those days that are so incredibly bad that the lukewarm coffee does send you into a screaming meltdown (not that I have ever done that – well, not over lukewarm coffee, anyway), you do feel like an asshole about ten seconds in, and slink off to your little corner until you can cool off. Then you send massive apologies to everyone, and if you’ve been a nuclear asshole, maybe flowers and chocolates. Because you know you have not acted like an adult, and you’re hoping people will forgive you, not sympathize with you, because you don’t want to act like that.
One thing I’ve realized recently is that some people do get such a feeling out of believing they are being wounded by others that they elevate this to get that special feeling of special specialness.
That “feeling out of believing they are being wounded by others” – I actually invented a game around that with my friend next door when I was a kid. A very young kid, 8 or younger (I know that because of the location). We would take turns being the abused who is then lavished with compensation. Weird as shit. I think it only lasted one afternoon, because once you’d each done a turn what was the point of doing it again? But also, we were very young kids. (I’d forgotten that game until all this histrionic shit reminded me of it.)
Exactly. This succoring of the “wound” is part of the problem.
Also,
No. I’m calling a lie. He did not say that; few people would have either the nerve or the context-free contempt necessary to say that. It sounds like how a Chick Tract writes dialogue for the unbelievers.
Just came across a threadreader by a conference infiltrator. The organization actually referred to The Misgendering as “violence”!
https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1132355559406088193.html
@Lady M:
It says:
This enormous outpouring of sympathy for suffering the tiniest slight to the ego is all about reinforcing that there was an injury at all. It’s also Trump level narcissism,
Jeez, it’s like listening to 5-year-olds. ‘He called me a name and made me feel bad’.
MelzDot, my little lambikins, if the nasty security man mis-gendered you, mis-gender him back. That’ll show him.
@latsot, yes; the bit I (block) quoted was from a tweet screenshotted (er, is that a word?) there in the linked thread.
I meant to write “also says”, I wasn’t trying to correct you or anything.
I like to think the word is “screenshat”.