He just wanted to crash the party

“Katy” Montgomerie says he had a bad experience.

https://twitter.com/KatyMontgomerie/status/1624609722367193093

What is a “hen do”? It’s what in the US is called a “bridal shower” – a party for a soon-to-marry woman attended only by women.

First of all, obviously nobody should throw drinks over people.

Second, if it really was a hen do then he didn’t belong there, and neither did the guy who threw the drink over him.

Third, I don’t believe it for a second about the crying. Montgomerie is a notorious bully; I can easily believe he was enraged, but not that he got the boo-hoos.

Fourth, it wasn’t his night, it was the future bride’s night. (Sorry, I find all this bridal/showery/do stuff kind of ooky, but it’s part of the story.) Fifth it wasn’t necessarily for no reason, on account of how Montgomerie is Montgomerie.

Whatever; he of course got lots of Twitter hugs and sympathy.

Comments

20 responses to “He just wanted to crash the party”

  1. tigger_the_wing Avatar
    tigger_the_wing

    I don’t believe a word of that. I’m more cynical than you are; I think that the whole scenario happened entirely within his cranium.

  2. Piglet Avatar

    A hen do is more like a bachelorette than a bridal shower. Lots of booze and tacky accessories, often penis-themed. Not really my kind of evening at the best of times but I can’t imagine many things worse than a hen do with Montgomerie.

  3. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    tigger – well, no, I don’t believe it either. I forgot to say that. I do think he made it up, but there’s a lot else not to believe too.

    Thanks for the hen-do explanation piglet. Urrrrrrrrggghhh. “Showers” sound bad enough; that sounds worse.

  4. Sastra Avatar

    First of all, obviously nobody should throw drinks over people.

    They certainly shouldn’t.

  5. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    But we don’t know it happened, and have little reason to believe what Montgomerie says.

  6. Rev David Brindley Avatar
    Rev David Brindley

    Hen do’s, at least in Oz, are not all private parties. A lot of them are a female form of the Pub Crawl, so it is quite possible that males were in the same venue, although not part of the “do”.

    However, anyone who can make Colin cry is a hero, turning the tables and all.

  7. What a Maroon Avatar
    What a Maroon

    “Hen do” sounds like the set up for a dad joke.

  8. Rob Avatar

    Think a Hen Do sounds bad? Try being the only sober person in the building when Hen do and Stag do (from different couples!) collide in a bar late at night. It’s a train wreck to watch. A great big burning, toxic, train wreck.

  9. guest Avatar

    I was just writing about another reported incident the other day, ‘there’s always some missing part of the story whenever anyone writes ‘I was just minding my own business, not doing anything, when suddenly someone came up to me and…”.

  10. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    And when it’s the highly belligerent, abusive, overbearing Colin “Katy” Montgomerie? Yeah…

  11. Screechy Monkey Avatar
    Screechy Monkey

    Amazing that this totally real person was able to detect that the womaniest woman who ever womaned was trans.

  12. tigger_the_wing Avatar
    tigger_the_wing

    Having seen screenshots of yet more of Colin’s tweets about the ‘incident’, I actually find it even less likely that it actually happened. No photos? No video? No complaint to bar staff, or to police? I find the last particularly amazing, given how readily he complains about minor stuff. The most generous (to him) explanation I can propose is that he spilled his own drink over himself, and invented the fictitious confrontation to cover his embarrassment (if he’s even capable of such an emotion, which is why I still believe it didn’t happen).

  13. James Garnett Avatar
    James Garnett

    I agree with tigger. Monty has lied so long about so much, that I just don’t believe that this ever happened. He’s just making up more crap to plead for victim status.

  14. iknklast Avatar

    “Hen do” sounds like the set up for a dad joke.

    I would never go to an event known as a “hen do”, no matter how good friends I was with the bride to be. It is insulting.

    My mother wouldn’t tolerate anyone calling her a hen; I don’t know if I inherited that from her or learned it from her, but I feel the same way.

  15. Alan Peakall Avatar

    lknklast: there is a claim that the etymology of Hen Do derived from Henna. However that seems to attract some skepticism. WaM: as far as I recall, the Dad joke ran: “What’s a Hindu? Lays Eggs!”.

  16. iknklast Avatar

    Alan, I appreciate the note; I love etymology. But I still wouldn’t go to something called a ‘hen do’. ;-)

  17. Skeletor Avatar

    Ophelia, you said he didn’t belong there, and yet:

    Lots of booze and tacky accessories, often penis-themed.

    Skimmed the Twitter thread. The claim is this happened outside the bar. Well, OK. Maybe.

    Nobody should be throwing drinks, and the guy is an idiot for doing that (assuming this is true). At the same time, it’s not a good idea for a trans woman to flirt with guys that think they’re a woman, as they’re not going to get a happy result when the guy realizes they’ve been tricked. They shouldn’t, and hopefully most won’t, do something violent like this guy did, but it’s still going to be unpleasant for everybody.

  18. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    Skeletor…………yes, I said the thing you quote me saying in the post. Then Piglet said the second thing you quote in a comment. There’s a chronology here. Piglet said the thing after I said the thing, so I hadn’t seen it yet. I got it wrong about what a hen do is. I hope that clarifies.

  19. Sackbut Avatar

    Skeletor:

    At the same time, it’s not a good idea for a trans woman to flirt with guys that think they’re a woman, as they’re not going to get a happy result when the guy realizes they’ve been tricked.

    I would suggest that’s the whole point, for people to think they are women, to accept them as women, including as potential sex partners. Not a good idea to trick people? Certainly, but the reactions are just transphobia, don’cha know. /sarcasm

  20. Tim Harris Avatar

    As a matter of interest, would a genuine woman be unable to stop crying after such an experience? Most of the women I know would be enraged, and some of them would, in addition to verbally attacking the man, throw their drink over him.