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Very healthy, very sane.
Council-funded sex education tells pupils ‘ask for consent before choking’
Actually it’s worse than that, because of course it is. The “sex education” tells boys to ask for consent before choking girls. There’s nothing about girls asking for consent to choke boys. That fact and what it hints at should be reason enough all by itself to Just Say No.
The disgusting thing is that the Telegraph apparently never notices the disparity. It certainly never mentions it. What are you thinking, you bozos?? If boys are wanting to choke girls then that itself is a problem and should be right at the center of your reporting.
Sex education materials taught to teenagers in schools included references to asking for consent before choking a partner.
And yet it turns out to be always a girl “partner” being choked and a boy “teenager” being told to ask first.
Should the boys also ask first before plunging a carving knife into the girl’s abdomen?
However they’re not wrong that the advice itself is horrifying.
The Times has seen a Powerpoint presentation intended for PSHE lessons at secondary schools telling pupils: “Consent should also happen every time sexual choking is an option, not just the first time.”
Wrong. Choking should be absolutely forbidden, period. It’s not a fun sexy game, it’s cutting off oxygen to the brain.
The presentation said: “It is never OK to start choking someone without asking them first and giving them space to say no. Make it clear that they have a right to say no if they don’t want to be choked, and their no should be respected and if it’s not respected that is sexual assault. Consent under threat is not consent. Consent should also happen every time sexual choking is an option, not just the first time.”
No no no. It is never ok to choke someone at all. It’s been hideously normalized for years, and that needs to stop.
The fact that it’s boys who do it and girls who should be politely asked first should tell you all you need to know about the power dynamics involved.
Michael Conroy, the founder of Men At Work, which trains teachers how to deliver appropriate PSHE lessons, raised the material with local MPs.
He said: “This is not sex education, this is just advocacy for the porn industry. Imagine you are a 14-year-old girl and you have told your boyfriend you don’t want to be choked but then an authority figure comes into school and tells you it is OK.
“Choking cuts off oxygen to the brain and is incredibly harmful, it can even kill. Most schools will take it on trust that something endorsed by the local authority is OK.
“There is a rampant myth that choking can be done safely and is simply another option for a sexual act. It’s normalised in porn and served up to teenagers via social media algorithms. The practice of choking is rife and I have seen it become a much bigger issue in the last two years.”
Just stop it.
FTFY
What on earth is the thinking behind even including this topic in such a way in ‘sex education’ for teenagers in schools? If it is because teenage males watch pornography and listen to people like Andrew Tate, then they should be told that it is extremely dangerous and should never be attempted.
I wonder how many teachers who have been charged with educating the boys in sexual matters actually broach the subject.
The story of Abe Sada, who killed her lover, might frighten off men and boys who think that ‘choking’ might be a bit of fun. You can find her story on Wikipedia with the name in the Western order: Sada Abe.
If something is inherently wrong to ask for in the first place, then no amount of ”consent” in retrospect can ever get you off the hook. The whole effort to ”destigmatize” perversion, remove shame and embarassment etc. has been a tremenduous mistake. Experiencing emotions like guilt, shame, and embarrassment is closely related to having a conscience*. Like fear and pain, these are important safety mechanisms and warning signs that we’re entering into dangerous territory. As you might expect from any trait evolved to be adaptive for a life of hunting and gathering, there are obviously going to be ”misfirings” and ”false alarms”, but that doesn’t make it a good idea to abolish any sense of shame or embarrassment, any more than the occasional false alarm makes it a good idea to throw out your smoke detector. There are definitely men out there (I’m inclined to say most men) who would benefit from a lot more shame, guilt, and embarrassment in their lives. The more the better, I say.
* We have a name for people who lack any such emotions. They’re called ”psychopaths”.
‘Consent,’ rather like ‘self ID,’ sound like a great concept. But after a little thought you can see that the model of consent turns every sexual act into a transaction: sex is what boys do TO girls…but only after extorting or purchasing consent.
They can’t conceive that girls might have their own interests, motives, and wants.
It doesn’t even sound like a great concept if it’s solely males asking females. That to me is not a great concept but a great big flashing warning sign. Why isn’t this something both sexes like to do to each other? Why in hell do men even want to choke women?