This Dad is sending a clear message to his nine year old daughter that men are to be feared. No they are not, stop giving young girls this message. https://t.co/Zna2yyJHJC
— Dr Helen Webberley she/her (@HelenWebberley) April 16, 2025
Sure because 100% of men are 100% safe around very young girls. Obviously.
At least this makes it fairly obvious that her position is that sex-specific spaces shouldn’t exist. That has the distinction of actually even being a position, which elevates it above the typical eat your cake and have it too of giving lip service to female-only spaces while insisting that males belong in them.
This Dad is sending a clear message to his nine year old daughter that men are to be feared. No they are not, stop giving young girls this message.
Yeah, everybody knows he should be teaching her to dress modestly, to never travel alone at night, and to always let people know where she’s going in advance for no reason at all. Poor, blameless penises have nothing to do with it; if anything “happens,” it’s only ever going to come down to “What was she wearing?”
What a disgusting display of victim-blaming. Here’s an idea Helen: FUCK OFF.
This Dad is sending a clear message to his nine year old daughter that men are to be feared. No they are not, stop giving young girls this message.
A man who has violated women’s space has already shown he’s willing to disregard boundaries. He has raised a red flag and he is self-selecting himself as a threat. So yes, a man who has done this is to be feared, avoided, and reported.
My daughter and granddaughters have brothers – and they have been, are being, and will be when old enough, taught to be wary of men. It’s possible to love particular men and still know that some men are a threat. Indeed, given the horrific prevalence of male violence against women and girls, it would be supremely neglectful NOT to teach nine-year-olds about how men can be dangerous, and to whom they should turn when they feel worried.
I’m a man myself, and if I were a woman, I wouldn’t feel safe around men either. If the election of the pussygrabber, the rise of the manosphere, the sheer magnitude of the inherently misogynistic porn industry etc. should have taught us any lessons, it’s that male predatory attitudes, as well as general hate and contempt towards women, are not “”fringe”.
One of the mixed “blessings” of growing up male is that – unless you’re going to spend your life in a sealed box – you can hardly avoid being exposed to vast amounts of misogynistic “locker-room” talk from other “boy-men” who seem to take for granted that you’re going to find their “banter” totally awesome. Why do they think that? Probably because their behavior has resulted in far more social reward than pushback from their male peers.
The heroes of the action movies that were popular when I grew up were almost without exception misogynists, and many of them were predators. And remember, these were the guys we were supposed to find totally cool And, as I have previously mentioned, the lyrics of much of the rock music I grew up listening to might as well have been written by a serial rapist, and as a matter of fact many of them probably were. It didn’t stop fans by the hundreds of thousands from cheering as if it were the coolest thing ever. From what I have gathered things are not much better in the hiphop and rap scenes.
I can only conclude that women have to have nerves of steel to ever risk the company of any man, knowing that such a large proportion of them are fully on board with all this crap. Feminists (the real kind, not the “for men” kind) are often accused of misandry, so let me set this straight right away. They’re not misandrists. And I should know: I’m a misandrist, and the feminists all disagree with me.
When our daughter was four, she and a friend were followed into a bathroom at a pool by a man. Fortunately the friend’s father noticed and alerted someone, and the man ran away.
In today’s climate, the father would probably be accused of being transphobic.
At least this makes it fairly obvious that her position is that sex-specific spaces shouldn’t exist. That has the distinction of actually even being a position, which elevates it above the typical eat your cake and have it too of giving lip service to female-only spaces while insisting that males belong in them.
Well I happen to think a strand or two of pearls does wonders for my SS uniform – offsets all that basic fascist black!
As for a handbag, it’s a wonderful place to carry all those tools of oppression!
Yeah, everybody knows he should be teaching her to dress modestly, to never travel alone at night, and to always let people know where she’s going in advance for no reason at all. Poor, blameless penises have nothing to do with it; if anything “happens,” it’s only ever going to come down to “What was she wearing?”
What a disgusting display of victim-blaming. Here’s an idea Helen: FUCK OFF.
Just to add to the pile-on….
I guess Helen didn’t choose the bear.
Additional bonus gaslighting shittiness:
A man who has violated women’s space has already shown he’s willing to disregard boundaries. He has raised a red flag and he is self-selecting himself as a threat. So yes, a man who has done this is to be feared, avoided, and reported.
My daughter and granddaughters have brothers – and they have been, are being, and will be when old enough, taught to be wary of men. It’s possible to love particular men and still know that some men are a threat. Indeed, given the horrific prevalence of male violence against women and girls, it would be supremely neglectful NOT to teach nine-year-olds about how men can be dangerous, and to whom they should turn when they feel worried.
Helen needs to spend time in the real world.
I’m a man myself, and if I were a woman, I wouldn’t feel safe around men either. If the election of the pussygrabber, the rise of the manosphere, the sheer magnitude of the inherently misogynistic porn industry etc. should have taught us any lessons, it’s that male predatory attitudes, as well as general hate and contempt towards women, are not “”fringe”.
One of the mixed “blessings” of growing up male is that – unless you’re going to spend your life in a sealed box – you can hardly avoid being exposed to vast amounts of misogynistic “locker-room” talk from other “boy-men” who seem to take for granted that you’re going to find their “banter” totally awesome. Why do they think that? Probably because their behavior has resulted in far more social reward than pushback from their male peers.
The heroes of the action movies that were popular when I grew up were almost without exception misogynists, and many of them were predators. And remember, these were the guys we were supposed to find totally cool And, as I have previously mentioned, the lyrics of much of the rock music I grew up listening to might as well have been written by a serial rapist, and as a matter of fact many of them probably were. It didn’t stop fans by the hundreds of thousands from cheering as if it were the coolest thing ever. From what I have gathered things are not much better in the hiphop and rap scenes.
I can only conclude that women have to have nerves of steel to ever risk the company of any man, knowing that such a large proportion of them are fully on board with all this crap. Feminists (the real kind, not the “for men” kind) are often accused of misandry, so let me set this straight right away. They’re not misandrists. And I should know: I’m a misandrist, and the feminists all disagree with me.
When our daughter was four, she and a friend were followed into a bathroom at a pool by a man. Fortunately the friend’s father noticed and alerted someone, and the man ran away.
In today’s climate, the father would probably be accused of being transphobic.
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