A question asked in a gender critical Facebook group:

How do we know we are on the right side?

I’m beginning to wonder if I’ve become extreme and captured…Are we on the right side? How do we know?

I think about that often. I’m sure all gender-skeptical types do.

One of the first things I think when I ask myself that question is the fact that I couldn’t believe in it if I tried. Even if I decided kindness or compassion or basic decency required me to, I couldn’t. The best I could do is fake it. Am I wrong not to fake it? Am I on the wrong side because I can’t fake it?

There are at least two parts to the belief problem – at least two things to believe or not. The first is whether or not men can be women (and vice versa but the men one is the one that raises all the power issues), and the second is if they can, what are we required to do?

I can imagine believing that men can (sort of kind of, in some sense, etc) be women, but I stumble at trying to believe that therefore it’s perfectly fair for men to take everything away from women. I couldn’t do it, not without becoming a completely different person, one I have no interest in being and no interest in interacting with.

It’s a bit of a brick wall.

Also: right side of which?
There are at least two aspects of the ideology that require taking a side.
One is whether or not men can be women and vice versa. A factual question.
The other is what do you do if you decide that men can indeed be women. A “now what?” question.
Even if I could bring myself to agree that men can be women, or at least that men can genuinely think they are women, I would still have to think about what to do about men who claim to be women.
Even if I could manage to believe that men can be women or deeply convinced they are women, I would still think they have no right to take what belongs to women.