9 out of 10
Meanwhile girls continue to be relentlessly harassed and bullied.
Some girls can be contacted by up to 11 boys a night asking for nude images, the schools watchdog for England says.
In an Ofsted survey, girls explained that if they blocked boys on social media “they just create multiple accounts to harass you”.
The report also found nine in 10 girls experienced sexist name-calling or were sent explicit photos or videos.
The watchdog is warning that sexual harassment has become “normalised” among school-age children.
That is, the sexual harassment of girls. Real girls, not boys who have a fantasy that they’re girls. While people are losing their shit over “misgendering” real girls are treated like crap day in and day out as if that were just normal. Why doesn’t sexual harassment get 1/100th of the attention that “misgendering” gets?
In the survey, girls said boys “just won’t take no for an answer” when asking for explicit images.
In other words boys somehow get the message that they’re allowed to persecute girls for their own amusement and sexual gratification. Where do they get that message? Why aren’t girls seen as people as opposed to holes for boys to use?
Amy, not her real name, told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme that when she was in sixth form she was raped after a party.
Now 25, she believes there was a wider culture of sexual harassment that played a role in what happened to her.
No no it’s sex positivity. She’s just being sex negative. Rape is just a kink and she’s a Karen to object to it. She’s crying white tears.
Ofsted chief inspector Amanda Spielman said she was “shocked” that young people said it was a significant problem at every school the watchdog visited.
“It wasn’t in some, it was in all of them,” she told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme.
Maybe this issue is actually more important than anyone’s “pronouns” or “gender identity”? Maybe the adults have somehow become so distracted by the burning issue of men’s right to demand that women call them Suzy that there just isn’t time or attention left for schoolgirls being tormented by schoolboys?
My impression is that much of this male mentality has rebounded with a vengeance in the era of social media. There is not much doubt in my mind that a 20 year old in 2000 had a much more enlightened set of ideas than when I was 20, but I fear the 20 years since have seen the ability to create self-reinforcing circles of various degrees of toxicity, of which Incels are merely the furthest out there.
I also think we are going to see a horrific spike in this as a result of the pandemic. So many boys spending virtually unlimited time on the internet, usually in gaming circles, with minimal supervision. I had to explain to my 11 year-old what rape really meant as a verb when I overheard it being used in in-game voice chat. For a year and half most of the positive environments have been cut off, and they have alternated between Youtube garbage and games. I have no idea what I have missed along the way.
THIS is what schools should be teaching in their “inclusivity” classes. Women are people. Don’t harrass women. It’s not funny, and it’s not fun. Your actions have consequences. Not only do boys need to be taught that this kind of behavior must not be accepted as “normal”, but girls, too, need to be taught that they shouldn’t just accept such a world, as their parents, grandparents, etc. did, for thousands of years.
Naïf, I’ve observed rape being used during in-game chat myself. The games I play are designed to be fairly family friendly. I’ve always tried to educate offenders as to why such speech is inappropriate, and have kicked those who don’t get the message. The number of times I’ve had to do it, and the negative reaction from most of them to being pulled up, tells me that this is a widespread and entrenched issue. I think we all knew that though.
And another thing. By teaching children about the consequences of sexual harassment of classmates we would be protecting the boys too. In the U.S. at least, once that boy turns 18, sharing a racy photo of an underage girl will land him in serious trouble. 15 or 20 or 30 years in federal prison trouble. And then a lifetime on parole, one condition of which is: no smartphone and no internet. This is because laws are made by politicians, and politicians can only stay politicians by being seen as “tough on crime”. Low-level, nonviolent drug offenders are finally getting some sympathy, but no politician dares show any “sympathy” for a sex offender.
I know about this from volunteering in a prison, and being a pen-pal to prisoners. These guys did not know the potential consequences of their actions. It really needs to be taught in every school.
Unlike Alison Phipps or whatever her name is.
That’s her name.
I recall an article some years ago where the author spoke to some boys. Apparently these girls who had not sent nudes were prudes and snooty. Once the girls complied, they were sluts and not worthy of respect. Misogyny through and through. I hadn’t quite grasped how absolutely stark it was.