Guest post: Surrender is not peace
Originally a comment by tigger_the_wing on Let’s give your rights away.
The result of giving in to the demands of narcissists and sociopaths is never peace. It always leads to another round of demands, and so on and so forth until they have absolutely everything; and then what?
First they came for the lesbians, now they’re coming after women and children simultaneously. It was ‘just’ preferred pronouns, now they’re mandatory wrong-sex (or illogically plural) pronouns if you want to keep your job. It was just “We want to live our lives in peace” and now it’s “You have to let us into ALL women’s spaces, shelters, toilets, sports, changing rooms, jobs, BIGOT”
Surely this bloke isn’t so full of himself that he didn’t do any smidgen of research into the subject, especially the history of appeasement and the results, before writing? Nah. Must be another narcissist, looking out for opportunities for himself, sod everyone else.
I agree.
I think trans folk should enjoy the same protection as anyone else. Fairness in housing, transport, accommodation, hiring. The whole package. Every human deserves that.
But you don’t get to tell me what words to use. Even if you did it wouldn’t matter.
No amount of trans surgery or hormones will ever get you all the way to what you want. No amount of accommodation or compromise will get you there either. Every person on the planet mouthing the words you want to hear will not be enough. Because the bind is not a matter of words or deeds but of thought. And ultimately a matter of what is in your own head. You demand affirmation because you can’t eliminate your own doubts.
This too is part of the human condition.
How are we defining fairness in hiring though? I have to say that if I were an employer I would be very wary about hiring a trans person, especially a male one, because at this point being trans seems to be inseparable from being narcissistic and demanding and always on the verge of making a big fuss about something. Also there’s the issue of reality-denial.
I’m glad I’m not an employer, I must say.