They must be cruel, only to be kind
No. That’s not how that works.
No, he doesn’t choose “being kind.” He says he does, but he doesn’t. Being kind is not what he’s choosing. He’s choosing a performance of “being kind” which is actually being astonishingly rude and aggressive and hostile to women.
When was it ruled that letting men who pretend to be women do whatever they want is what “being kind” means, while defending women’s rights is the very opposite of “being kind”? It’s clear that that’s what Benjamin Ryan thinks “being kind” means, so I wonder why he thinks that. Why does he see women as not in need of any form of “kindness” or fairness or equal treatment? Why does he see men who pretend to be women as fragile cowering victims and women as their huge muscular tormenters? Why does Matt Yglesias see things that way? Why does anyone? Is it something in the water?
Not to mention, ‘being kind’ by using ‘preferred pronouns’ isn’t even being kind to trans. It’s supporting them in a delusion instead of persuading them to get treatment, or grow up, whichever they need, and also it’s condescending.
But the point of this particular post is to focus on the way “being kind” = “being kind” to trans people only, while being astoundingly unkind to women. I don’t want that point to get lost. It gets lost so much of the time.
I’ll see his “Why I Use Trans People’s Preferred Pronouns” and raise him a “Pronouns are Rohypnol”.
https://fairplayforwomen.com/pronouns/
But Ryan is in fact waging war against women. Newsflash: the consistent losers in the “battle of the genders” have been women. You are helping to cause this, Mr. Ryan, by ignoring women’s concerns for their safety and dignity, and siding with men who have taken both. It is clear that currently, being an ally to trans people is to be an enemy of women. Prove me wrong.
I note that Ryan states he wants to use trans peoples’ preferred pronouns. I’d want to ask him why he (I assume) limits this courtesy to trans people. Why won’t he allow me mine: your magnificence, his magnificence etc. This mongrel wants to know.