Left behind

A branch of misogyny I hadn’t been aware of:

…women on RedditInstagram and TikTok began sharing stories of being left behind by their partners while hiking, biking and climbing in nature, calling it “Alpine divorce.”

Often, the women described risky or uncomfortable circumstances where their partners had more knowledge of the terrain or more experience with the sport. In some cases, the couple met again, but in others, the women remained alone or relied on strangers to descend the mountain safely.

Nice! Get your girlfriend into a dangerous situation and then leave.

The flurry of social media posts during the last few weeks appeared to have been triggered by a criminal case in Austria focused on a mountaineering expedition that ended in death. In February, Thomas Plamberger, 37, was found guilty of gross negligent manslaughter for leaving his girlfriend, Kerstin Gurtner, 33, to die of hypothermia on Austria’s highest mountain, the Grossglockner.

Gross indeed.

Max Eberle, 32, a freelance journalist and hiking instructor in Austria, Germany, Italy and Switzerland, said that growing up in the Austrian Alps, Alpine divorce was a “rural legend” — something he’d heard discussed but never actually witnessed.

The current use of the term, Mr. Eberle said, described what he preferred to call “toxic Alpinism.”

“It’s very common that you see a couple in the mountains, and it’s always like the guy pushing his wife or his girlfriend to go further when she is totally exhausted and wants to go back,” Mr. Eberle said.

It’s close cousin to the men in women’s sports problem. Dude, you’re bigger and stronger. Men are bigger and stronger. That doesn’t translate to “Yay we get to beat them up!” It translates to take your physical advantages into account and act accordingly.

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7 responses to “Left behind”

  1. Athel Cornish-Bowden Avatar
    Athel Cornish-Bowden

    Misogyny is like Donald Trump. Each time I think it can’t get any worse, it does.

  2. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    Misogyny and Donald Trump have a lot in common.

  3. Papito Avatar

    This is so absolutely insane and counter to every tradition of hiking and mountaineering I know.

    I used to hike a lot, weeks in the mountains, when I was young. Back then my elders explained to me that group hiking is and must be fundamentally socialistic: the stronger must carry more, and the weaker less, or it doesn’t work. I frequently carried extra packs, and happily, because that’s how we all got to the campsite together.

    These narcissistic freaks don’t want to go to the mountains to have a wonderful time with people they love. They just want human props.

  4. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    It is hard to imagine doing that – just walking away.

  5. iknklast Avatar

    I won’t even do that in the grocery store, even though my elderly husband has no hope of keeping up with me. He could find his way back to the car, but I stay with him.

    This is insane. But so much in this world is insane these days.

  6. Jim Avatar

    In the hiking groups I’ve been involved in, the rule is stop where the trail divides until the slowest people arrive, so everyone knows which way to go. Fast hikers who don’t follow that rule are not wanted the next time.

    The group *might* split into groups that want to go farther or less far, so long as each group includes someone who knows the route.

  7. Ophelia Benson Avatar

    Those sound like good hiking groups.

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