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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie wrote an essay.

In a lengthy essay published on her website on Tuesday, Adichie accused a former student of publicly attacking her after a 2017 interview in which Adichie said, among other things, “I don’t think it’s a good thing to talk about women’s issues being exactly the same as the issues of trans women.” Adichie held up the personal feud as a cautionary tale about how social media has been used by “certain young people” as an ideological battering ram rather than a place to communicate and seek understanding.

Let’s read some of what she said:

After the workshop, I welcomed her into my life. I very rarely do this, because my past experiences with young Nigerians left me wary of people who are calculating and insincere and want to use me only as an opportunity. But she was a Bright Young Nigerian Feminist and I thought that was worth making an exception.

She spent time in my Lagos home. We had long conversations. I was support-giver, counsellor, comforter.

Then I gave an interview in March 2017 in which I said that a trans woman is a trans woman, (the larger point of which was to say that we should be able to acknowledge difference while being fully inclusive, that in fact the whole premise of inclusiveness is difference.)

And you know what happened next: the former student trashed Adichie on social media.

Of course she could very well have had concerns with the interview. That is fair enough. But I had a personal relationship with her. She could have emailed or called or texted me. Instead she went on social media to put on a public performance.

It’s so much more fun that way.

Back to the Times:

The conflict escalated last year, after Adichie defended an essay by the Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling about sex and gender — a piece that her critics seized on as transphobic — as “perfectly reasonable.” Emezi posted a lengthy Twitter thread, saying that when their* former teacher “said those things and then doubled down and then mocked those of us who called her out (she called the response ‘trans-noise’), I was gutted.”

Adichie’s essay appears to be the first time she has publicly addressed the feud, tying the personal attacks to what she describes as a larger social and cultural problem of moral self-righteousness and reflexive attacks on those with differing views, and the corrosive effect those stances can have on unfettered debate and discussion. “We have a generation of young people on social media so terrified of having the wrong opinions that they have robbed themselves of the opportunity to think and to learn and to grow,” she wrote.

But at least they’re infinitely intersectional.

*Emezi uses customized pronouns

Comments

14 responses to “10 car pile-up at the intersection”

  1. iknklast Avatar

    But at least they’re infinitely intersectional

    Not infinitely. They exclude women.

  2. tigger_the_wing Avatar
    tigger_the_wing

    *Emezi uses customized pronouns

    In other words, Emezi insists other people use customised pronouns when referring to her. Emezi is manipulative towards people she hasn’t even met, and probably never will, so it is no surprise that she treated Adichie so abysmally.

  3. twiliter Avatar

    I read Adichie’s essay the other day when Richard linked to it (quality of silliness post, reply 5), and what struck me was not this person’s betrayal and ingratitude, but how people use social media to air out their inner nastiness. One one hand, I think we’d all be better off not seeing the worst side of human nature plastered all over the social media landscape by every angry degenerate with an internet connection, but on the other hand, Adichie found out how nasty this Emizi person is sooner than she might have otherwise.

  4. GW Avatar

    I think we’d all be better off not seeing the worst side of human nature plastered all over the social media landscape by every angry degenerate with an internet connection

    That’s why B&W is now the only internet forum I frequent.

  5. twiliter Avatar

    Me too GW, but I think discussion forums attached to individual websites are a different animal than social media proper, such as facebook, twitter, blogger, etc. When I tell people I don’t do social media, I don’t count this, or previous forums I participated in (such as the old (and much missed) TPM forum) as in that category. It’s much more of a community here than the vicious, self promoting free for all that is “social” media.

  6. twiliter Avatar

    Not that I don’t do a fair amount of navel gazing here though, lol. :D

  7. What a Maroon Avatar
    What a Maroon

    What a powerful essay by Adichie. Part Three is especially worth quoting extensively:

    There are many social-media-savvy people who are choking on sanctimony and lacking in compassion, who can fluidly pontificate on Twitter about kindness but are unable to actually show kindness. People whose social media lives are case studies in emotional aridity. People for whom friendship, and its expectations of loyalty and compassion and support, no longer matter. People who claim to love literature – the messy stories of our humanity – but are also monomaniacally obsessed with whatever is the prevailing ideological orthodoxy. People who demand that you denounce your friends for flimsy reasons in order to remain a member of the chosen puritan class.

    People who ask you to ‘educate’ yourself while not having actually read any books themselves, while not being able to intelligently defend their own ideological positions, because by ‘educate,’ they actually mean ‘parrot what I say, flatten all nuance, wish away complexity.’

    People who do not recognize that what they call a sophisticated take is really a simplistic mix of abstraction and orthodoxy – sophistication in this case being a showing-off of how au fait they are on the current version of ideological orthodoxy.

    People who wield the words ‘violence’ and ‘weaponize’ like tarnished pitchforks. People who depend on obfuscation, who have no compassion for anybody genuinely curious or confused. Ask them a question and you are told that the answer is to repeat a mantra. Ask again for clarity and be accused of violence. (How ironic, speaking of violence, that it is one of these two who encouraged Twitter followers to pick up machetes and attack me.)

    And so we have a generation of young people on social media so terrified of having the wrong opinions that they have robbed themselves of the opportunity to think and to learn and to grow.

    Now I have to find some of her novels.

  8. twiliter Avatar

    @7 It’s a good piece of writing, and I think an excellent perspective on social media users. I think I’ll look for more of her writing too, that’s a good idea. Anyone read her books?

  9. twiliter Avatar

    I just read another essay by her, “We Should All Be Feminists.” I liked it. Now looking for more. :)

  10. iknklast Avatar

    twiliter, I have read two of her books, but not novels. One of them is We Should All be Feminists, and the other is Dear Ijawele: A Feminist Manifesto in 15 Suggestions.

    I think her works are definitely worth a look.

  11. twiliter Avatar

    Thanks Ikn, I will read the Manifesto next. :)

  12. clamboy Avatar

    The author of the NYT piece chose to omit Emezi’s tweet calling for Adiche and J.K. Rowling to be subject to attacks by people with machetes. Emezi’s tweet was still up on Twitter as of yesterday. But perhaps this is the woke version of “locker room talk”?

  13. clamboy Avatar

    @13 – that’s the one. Adiche references the tweet in her piece, so the person at the NYT might have mentioned it. The “Assigned Male” cartoonist spoke of Maya Forstater’s “constant HARASSMENT” of trans people, I think it would be proper for the paper of record to note the actual harassment – death threats and the like – to which women like Adiche and Rowling, and so many others with less social clout, are subject.