Guest post: Everyone loves a good rags-to-sequins-and-glitter story

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Originally a comment by Your Name’s not Bruce? on Try shutting up.

… trying to force the unachievable on the unwilling….

That’s as good a summary of the whole outrage as I have ever heard.

There’s something about that logic which bothers me. Why the baked in assumptions that the third space must be trans only, rather than inclusive, willing and knowingly participating? It could have been packed with trans women, genderqueers, inclusive feminists and all the so called allies.

Because they wanted to be seen as women, period. Not going into women’s spaces breaks that narrative, and rubs their noses in the mad impossibility of their quest. In their minds, being women “by choice” or “through effort” makes them better women than those lazy, ungrateful women who have femaleness handed to them on a silver platter at conception. Everyone should be rooting for them, the underdogs. They’re oppressed by so-called “cis-women”, who are barring their trans “sisters” from their rightful place in all female spaces. Everyone loves a good rags-to-sequins and glitter story, right, and if they don’t, they’ll be made to like it. Not to mention that it is fueled by classic male entitlement in lipstick and heels.

“Allyship” is a one way street, and is only useful to the extent that it gets them what they want, just like forced teaming. Share the cost, appropriate all the rewards. Do they want to be stuck in the same facilities as all those other wierdos? Fuck no. They DEMAND access to women’s toilets BECAUSE THEY ARE WOMEN! Anything less is hateful bigotry. “Logic” has very little to do with it. Who needs logic when you can just bully your way to your goals? Bulldozers don’t explain, argue, or debate. They just push forward, destroying all obstacles and obstructions.

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2 responses to “Guest post: Everyone loves a good rags-to-sequins-and-glitter story”

  1. Arcadia Avatar
    Arcadia

    In their minds, being women “by choice” or “through effort” makes them better women than those lazy, ungrateful women who have femaleness handed to them on a silver platter at conception. Everyone should be rooting for them, the underdogs.

    I get this argument. It could have painted us actual women as the equivalent of the snooty, stuck up, “pure bloods”, hated Karens, with our droopy real breasts and dusty absent love lives, attempting to stick to a bygone, sad, oppressive era, hiding in our now crumbling castles as the rest of the world moves on to their sequinned technicolor future with free hugs and free love and breast implants and new hotness. And in part, they did do this. A lot of things are technically legal, but impossible in practice because we’re viewed as the hateful bitches who don’t deserve even table scraps. That’s why you can’t get funding for a female only domestic violence shelter in Victoria, Australia. That’s why you can’t say “no thank you” to putting pronouns in your email signature. You could, but no, they won’t, no you can’t *really*, the blowback is too much.

    Some trans women will delight in stating how superior they are to us, including how culturally and socially acceptable they are compared to us, who are hated, despised, looked down upon. Meanwhile others will never cease complaining how a tiny elderly woman called them “sir”, ruining their day completely, cue the gales of tears, because women never suffered like this.

    “They’re oppressed by so-called “cis-women”, who are barring their trans “sisters” from their rightful place in all female spaces.”

    This is the part I don’t get. They’re the ones who are changing the laws in their favour, they’re the ones getting the funding, they’re the ones who loom large over us in small confined spaces, they’re the ones who have human rights bodies at their beck and call, ready to fight for them, and against us. At what point do they ever conclude that we aren’t oppressing them anymore? And when do they ever fight the men, who pose the actual danger?

  2. iknklast Avatar
    iknklast

    Some trans women will delight in stating how superior they are to us, including how culturally and socially acceptable they are compared to us, who are hated, despised, looked down upon. Meanwhile others will never cease complaining how a tiny elderly woman called them “sir”, ruining their day completely, cue the gales of tears, because women never suffered like this.

    And this is made easier by the fact that women were already hated, despised, and looked down on. It was ever thus. Now, the trans have made it socially acceptable to hate women, to paint us as inferior, to laugh at us and mock us.

    When I heard one of my friends at work explain that women actually do have more rights than men, his argument was based on the fact that we can wear any color we want (he was wearing a pink shirt that day, sort of undermining his argument) and we have a lot more choice in shoes. What he doesn’t bother to notice is that the bulk of those shoe choices are designed to destroy women’s feet and render us unable to run away from men. I opt for flat-heeled black boots and for my days off, sneakers. Seriously, if that’s the best argument you can come up with, I’m not going to kneel down and say, oh, I’m so sorry, can I PLEASE get you a sandwich?

    This is the part I don’t get. They’re the ones who are changing the laws in their favour, they’re the ones getting the funding, they’re the ones who loom large over us in small confined spaces, they’re the ones who have human rights bodies at their beck and call, ready to fight for them, and against us. At what point do they ever conclude that we aren’t oppressing them anymore? And when do they ever fight the men, who pose the actual danger?

    They have adopted a page from the MRA playbook, where women have always oppressed men, always subordinated them, always been the ones to receive service from the other sex, while we, the oppressor, sat back watching soap operas and eating chocolates while our oppressed men had to go to work to pay for the chocolates. We were always the nags, the shrews, the bitches.

    And when do they ever fight the men, who pose the actual danger?

    Oh, that’s the easy question on the test! I know this answer! NEVER!

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