Originally a comment by Papito on What kind of “experts”?
Experts said that in todayâs world, children must fight against the devil for their souls even while theyâre asleep.
Really, whatâs the difference?
The difference is that the believers in gender ideology have so completely captured the media elite that, though a reporter may question whether children have âsouls,â none may question whether children have âgender identity.â
A reporter who went on NPR or wrote in the Times about how todayâs children had to guard their souls against the devil would be seen as religious, and the media organization would fence them in with a counterpoint. No counterpoint is allowed for the hundreds of times a week they assert that all children have a âgender identity.â Nobody comes on after to say ânot everybody believes that people have gender identities.â Itâs presented as revealed truth.
If a kid came home from a public school saying that their health teacher was telling them about their souls, few angry parents would hesitate to call the school. When kids come home from public school saying their health teachers are telling them about their gender identities, parents have to weigh whether they will be labeled a bigot for protesting.
What do young people really have, thatâs different from yesteryear? Proselytized from every newspaper, radio, and school, they have the reified âgender identity.â At the top of the cultural menu of explanations for psychological distress, they have âgender dysphoria.â In previous generations, a different thing would have been at the top of that menu: the work of the Devil, multiple personalities, possession, repressed trauma. In this sense, âIâm really a boyâ is the new âI saw Goody Osburn cavorting with the Devil.â
Most of the kids who identify that they are suffering from âgender dysphoriaâ have an interpersonal conflict with their same-sex parent. As did innumerable adolescents of generations past, they donât want to grow up to be their dad, or to be their mom. The difference is that today, instead of being told they can grow up to be a different sort of man, or a different sort of woman, they are told right away that they can grow up not to be a man at all, or not to be a woman at all. Thatâs what a firmly implanted belief in gender identity promises them. Thatâs what teaching kids from Kindergarten that all people choose their genders and their pronouns teaches them.
Do we forget that second word exists? Gender⌠identity. There it is. A fundamental goal of the psyche during adolescence is defining the individualâs identity. Thatâs what an adolescent brain is meant to do, and it does it, first and foremost, by reaction to and against his or her parents. What am I? Not like my dad⌠and that is when gender ideology hijacks individuation. Did anybody in the Sixties imagine that someday âtuning in, turning on, and dropping outâ would seem like a more mainstream choice? Did anybody imagine that someone could convince adolescent boys to sign up to become eunuchs? And convince their parents to go along with it?
I saved my son from the gender ghouls, and these days he thanks me for it. Now I have to lay the groundwork to save my daughter. I have nerdy, non-conforming, empathetic, quirky kids, and such kids are the prime targets of the gender cult. Kids arenât ever going to believe everything their parents tell them, and nor should they. But whenever the topic of âgender identityâ comes up, I remind my daughter that not everybody believes in âgender identity,â just like not everybody believes in âsouls.â I donât have a âgender identity,â I tell her. Her mother doesnât have one, her brother doesnât have one. Weâre just who we are, and we live the way we want to. If the way we want to express ourself comports with what someone expects of a person of our sex, then cool. If it doesnât, then, well, thatâs also cool. Itâs just not terribly important. What we have are identities. âGenderâ is just one tiny little blind alley in the vast cities of our identities.
The gender cult wants to make that tiny little alley the main thoroughfare of kidsâ identities. That is, ultimately, spiritually impoverishing. Not only do the sacrifices of body parts and functions the cult requests of children in service to subordinating identity to gender weaken and harm them, but so does the sacrifice of their own psychological wholeness. In my state itâs illegal to provide psychological therapy to children who suffer from gender dysphoria. There is only one legal remedy: affirmation. A therapist who doesnât do that could lose his license, and so he will commonly refuse to see such patients, thus turning away a significant proportion of the adolescents needing therapy today.
Asking whatâs really causing them trauma, whatâs really behind their suffering, is impermissible. The answer is gender, and you will provide that answer. Send them down the path to mutilation. Only someday later, perhaps in another state, can they start to explore the reality of their suffering. Now, with more suffering. Perhaps infertile, perhaps sick, perhaps unable ever to experience a sexual relationship. But theyâve got âgender identity,â right?
Does the belief in âgender identityâ harm all children? I canât say whether it does, no more than I can say that the belief in âsoulsâ does. Iâm content to let people believe what they want in their churches. If weâre not taking kids away from Christian Scientists, who wonât give them aspirin, then we canât take kids away from gender ideologues. What I can say with all certainty is that the mandated belief in âgender identityâ harms more children than it helps. We must do our best to push back against the reification of this belief.