It turns out that what Louis CK did was a kink.
I am saying: #metoo has been weaponized against non-normative sex practices in some contexts.
I'm not sure what you mean by "express consent," but if you mean verbal only, then yes I am arguing against that requirement.
I'm saying: being an exhibitionist is a kink. https://t.co/ej70P24cVR
— Heidi Matthews (@Heidi__Matthews) June 26, 2019
It’s kink-shaming and mainstream (not in a good way) to say that a powerful man shouldn’t trap two less-powerful women in his hotel room and masturbate in front of them.
Kink shaming has absolutely fed the “he’s so creepy” mainstream take, which has fed the “he’s a harasser and/or assaulter” mainstream conclusion.
The law does not simply lock people up — it also includes the law of workplace harassment & pervades the CK discussion. https://t.co/CtRJookRpu
— Heidi Matthews (@Heidi__Matthews) June 26, 2019
It’s complex, you see. We have to slow down and take a deep breath and pause to admire the complexity of Louis CK’s kink and the way he trapped two women into doing the watching for him.
No, it is not. My argument is that good judgments are attuned to sexual complexity. We would ignore the relevance of the kink shaming aspect of the #louisck fracas at our peril. https://t.co/5FiYy9xTtq
— Heidi Matthews (@Heidi__Matthews) June 27, 2019
I’ve also seen vehement, even angry claims that choking (aka erotic asphyxiation) is a kink and that calling men choking women during sex “violent” or “dangerous” is kink-shaming.
People are weird.
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8 responses to “Shame not the kink”
Is the point she is trying to make that abuse of power to get vanilla sex is less harshly judged than abuse of power to get kinky sex? That is probably true but “abuse of power to get sex” is the major point on which to focus.
I don’t think that’s the point she’s trying to make, at least not the whole of it.
Once none of us are embarrassed or guilty about kink, won’t it then be straight and vanilla?
There’s kink, which involves sex between two consenting adults: and there’s sexual assault, under which category falls flashing. Heidi wins the trophy for Worst Apologist for Rapey Behaviour In Men.
Seriously, what next? Rape is kink?
Heidi Matthews is a professor of law who doesn’t understand consent.
Hmmm, it does seem a basic sort of mistake, but then if the President can get that wrong, I’m sure anyone can.
I note Matthews is a co-director of the Nathanson Centre. The Nathanson Centre twitter account replied to a challenge about Matthews views on consent/kink, directing to an example of her ‘scholarship’ on the issue. This was actually an article published in a non-academic online magazine. The bar for scholarship seems to have got lower since I left the research/academia field. Of course, who holds the keys to the Nathanson Centre twitter account and who posted the tweet is unknown. It could very well be Matthews herself, a friend, or an employee. Not what I would describe as meaningful defence.
I’m with learie. Next stop is Slave Girls of Gor.
Wow, so they did.
https://twitter.com/NathansonCentre/status/1144356555799846912
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The centre has two directors, Matthews being one. It could be that that’s the whole of the Nathanson Centre.
Wow. I read that second article, Professor Fischel’s, and it is a doozy. I think I need to go have a wash.
I noticed this particularly:
Start out with sex, switch to gender, make an unsupported statement at the end – standard tactics. Why should there be no legally actionable way to determine sex? That is a biological reality.
As for “The law cannot bring any answer to this question”, the author presented no evidence to support this. So, ask a couple of questions that go unanswered, then draw a conclusion based on nothing other than trying to confuse the reader into thinking you’ve said something deep and meaningful.
And this claim that the TERFs are the ones who conflate sex and gender – that quoted passage above is where sex and gender is conflated, not here on B&W.
Lordy lordy, what a world.