Originally a comment by latsot on That’s sense?
This is what I was trying to say in a recent thread. Weâve lost the ability to stick to the argument. The trans âmovementâ is incredibly distracting and itâs almost impossible to get through a rebuttal of a single argument without being deflected by a new articulated lorryload of insanity hitting you amidships.
Far be it for me to tell people how to activist. I tried that in the olden gnu atheist times and look how that worked out. I canât even get through a single paragraph without mixing a metaphor, nobody should be listening to me. I mean, âamidshipsâ? Where the fuck did that come from?
But having said all that, what we all need to do is focus a lot more on what we cannot concede. Unapologetically. Irreverently. Rudely. Belligerently. Like a bellicose giant, to steal a phrase from Dawkins. Like people, what is more, who will not take any shit.
I know all of us around here are brilliantly cross and argumentative already, itâs what I love about this place. And the message here could not be clearer: men are not women, women are not men, what the fuck is this non-binary bullshit anyway? But weâre all in danger of losing focus when we argue because of the distracting gew-gaws of fuckbuggery I mentioned before. This is why I miss the brilliant Helen Staniland on Twitter. She was absolutely focused on one particular issue, usually phrased as the question youâll all be familiar with. No matter what nonsense came her way, she found an entertaining route back to that question. Very effective, thatâs why She Had To Go. Me, Iâm all over the fucking place, but I learned a lot from Helen. Focus like a laser on your bottom line, on the thing youâre not willing to concede, and your enemies will scamper about it like cats.
You see? Even I can do metaphors when I really try.
In other words, framing (sorry) is important. This is not an argument about rights. Nobodyâs rights are in danger. This is because trans people have all the rights the rest of us have anyway and we are absolutely unwilling and unable to compromise on the existing rights of women and homosexuals. We wonât do it. It wonât happen. Thatâs not the argument and it never has been and never could be, but itâs horrifyingly easy to be sidetracked into arguments about rights anyway.
The argument has to be about what we can concede, and it turns out itâs loads of stuff. We can stop judging the gender non-conforming (come on, even we who consider ourselves more enlightened do it a bit, we can admit it and we can try to stop doing it). We can fight more for acceptance of the gender non-conforming: upset at events where drag queens read to children because of the grotesque and harmful caricature of âfemininityâ and non-conformance on display? I am, Iâm fucking furious about it. But what I do is complain about it instead of setting up more positive events about gender non-conformity.
What Iâm saying is thatâs the kind of concession we need to make; to be as open to doing things that help people who are lost as we are resolute in not giving up rights and language and free speech. I think we are, but we are easily sidetracked into debates about rights because we are somewhat logical beings who care a great deal about truth. And because we are emotional beings who care a great deal about injustice. Weâre easy â in other words â to manipulate.
As Iâve said before, negotiation is about creating options, not about giving away things we donât want to give away in exchange for not being beaten with a pink baseball bat. Come at me with the bat, trans activists. Come at me. It will not work out well for you and I will not budge one inch. But I will happily work with you and your many, many other enemies to help de-marginalise the non-conforming. Iâll move heaven and fucking earth for that.
NowâŚ. why wonât you work with me to do that, trans activists? Itâs a question worthy of Helen.